Relationships, Power, and Bullyism Survey

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Hi there!

Have you ever experienced situations that make you feel physically or emotionally hurt and humiliated? You may have experienced a form of everyday violence. This survey will help us put together The Everyday Peace Toolkit: a set of free and accessible research-based resources to help people like you address situations of everyday violence that they may encounter in their lives. As part of this project, we are carrying out a series of surveys. The current one focuses on forms of everyday control, power, and abusive in the context of everyday relationships, for example in the family, couple, workplace, community, and more.

While filling out the survey, you are welcome to follow the structure provided, or if you prefer, jump to the end and tell your story in your own words. Most of the questions will allow you to thick as many answers as you like. Go through them quickly and just thick what applies to you. There will be open questions where you could add more details.

WARNING: This is a very sensitive topic, and it could re-evoke traumatic emotions. Please do skip any questions that are not comfortable. Your well-being is the priority for us.

The survey is completely anonymous. We are not collecting personal details and we will not able able to trace your answers back to you. If you wish to stay in touch with our network, enter your contact details in the separate link provided at the end after your submission. The form will open in a separate page and will NOT be recorded together with your survey answers.

All the questions are absolutely non-judgmental. There are many detailed questions, and some may feel invasive, but remember that we make no assumptions, and we do not judge. There is no right or wrong answer. Nobody could judge what you could or should have done in those situations, or compare ‘performances’ with those of others. We are humbly here to understand and learn from you. We are deeply grateful for your help.

This project is carried out by Dr Monica Career and Dr Sylvia Frain from The Everyday Peace Initiative. You can learn more about us at everydaypeaceinitiative.com.

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Your relationship

Do interactions with someone you know and meet regularly make you feel a sense of shame, humiliation, hurt, or feel invasive and controlling?

Yes, occasionally

Yes, frequently

Not that I can think of

I think I did, but I cannot think of specific incidents right now

Other:

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In what kind of context do these hurtful interactions happen:

My partner

Family members (parents, children, siblings, etc)

Work environment

Educational environment

Neighbourhood/ community

Group of peers

Other community group

Other:

Have you experienced more than one abusive or controlling relationships in your life? In what kind of contexts?

From here, we will just focus on one relationship. Choose the one that feels more important to you and you feel comfortable talking about. You are welcome to fill the questionnaire again focusing on other relationships. Do you think that previous experiences negative experiences may have influenced this relationship in some way?

Do you feel that the other person is in a position of power in this relationship? If so, why?

Has control over my finances/ properties

Emotional influence

Has better influence over the society/ community/ work environment

Legal reasons

Higher position in a hierarchical structure

Shared care of children or other person in need

My own care needs

Can affect my career possibilities, or other pathways that matter to me

Other:

Do you feel that any of these factors influence this relationship?

Provenience/ ethnic background

Race

Gender

Disability

Neurodiversity

Age

Level of education

Caste

Socio-economic background

Social stigma

Other:

How does the other person exercise power/influence over you?

Controlling my access to finances

Physical violence

Physical isolation

Limiting my decision-making

Limiting my chances to speak

Shaming

Gaslighting

Seeking to demonstrate that I am inferior

Seeking to demonstrate I cannot do it on my own

Seeking to demonstrate I am dependant

Social isolation

Controlling my social activity

De-facto creating barriers to self-sustainance

Denying care

Emotional blackmailing

Exclusion from certain activities or decision-making processes

Shaming and humiliating in the presence of others

Controlling my access to resources, benefits, pathwyas, or other things that I need

Influencing my relationship with others

Not talking part in duties, so they fall on me

Other:

The other person usually..

Asks for my opinion when we need to make choices together

Assumes he/she already know what I think, feel, or like

Tends to make choices for me

Praises and values things about me that I value, too

Understands my perspective

Seems to feel threatened by my qualities and success

Does not know or understand me well, despite knowing each other for a long time

Talks a lot about himself/herself, even when I share something about me

Enjoys having my attention

Misunderstands my intentions often

Wants me to be different

Other:

How has the relationship changed over time? Has any life event changed the relationship?

Do you have any further comments or details to add?

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