1 - Minimally
2 - Partially
3 - Mostly
4 - Fully
1. Has equal empathy for the child and the caregivers
2. Understands how the gap between caregivers’ expectations and the child’s abilities
3. Understands the communicative intent (underlying emotional needs) behind the child’s misbehavior
4. Sees how the caregiver misreads the child’s frustration and escalates negative behavior
5. Understands how the caregivers’ life experiences or personal vulnerabilities shape their perspective and reaction to the child
6. Understands how current stresses and strains on the family unit impacts caregiving
7. Understands the caregiving structure in the family (e.g. enmeshed, high-conflict, under-organized, authoritarian), and its implications for the NIC
8. Appreciates everyone’s roles in the NIC (including siblings)
9. Knows which caregiver actions are likely to be soothing or de-escalating for this child given his/her vulnerabilities (antidote to NIC)