How much of a Nice Guy are you?

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A quick multi-choice assessment to see how much you people-please in normal life.
Try to answer the questions as honestly as possible, choosing whichever answer BEST matches you.
At the end, add up you scores: each time you choose the first answer, you get 0 points. Each time you choose the second answer, you get 1 point. And each time you choose the 3rd answer, you get 2 points. Then, for the final question, you get an additional point for each of the beliefs you identify with.

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Do you think of yourself as a Nice Guy?

No, almost never

In certain situations I become a people-pleaser

Yes, most of the time

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When you want something... *

You say it loudly, proudly, and directly without hesitation (no fear of rejection)

You often use indirect methods, such as hinting or sulking, to ask for it

You usually keep it to yourself to avoid inconveniencing or hurting others

Your romantic relationships are... *

Always healthy, with full honesty and respect, and a vigorous sex life

Somewhat unhealthy, with needs going unmet, expectations hidden, lots of dishonesty

Non-existent - you can't seem to make it happen

When it comes to expressing emotions... *

You always let it out, no matter how anyone might judge or react

You mostly hold them in unless they're something acceptable or appropriate e.g. happiness

You hide them as much as possible, with occasional "pukes" where it all comes out at once

Your needs come... *

First

After everyone else's are met

Never - you don't even really know what they are

Your most common response to confrontation/conflict is... *

To assertively meet it head on with cool, rational debate aimed at respecting myself

Try to make everyone calm down and get along

Bend over backwards, self-sacrifice, and back down in nearly every situation

When it comes to honesty... *

I speak my mind and feelings at all times no matter what the situation or the potential reaction

I'm mostly honest but not when I might get rejected, humiliated, embarrassed or attacked

I only am totally honest when I feel safe that the person will react well

Which of these beliefs do you have? (Tick as many as apply) *

People benefit from me being nice all the time

There's nothing wrong with trying to make other people happy

The only other option (instead of being a Nice Guy) is to be a jerk

This Nice Guy persona is actually who I genuinely am - I'm not faking

I'm basically an honest person

I'm non-judgmental

The universe is unfair, I should be better rewarded for being a good person

It's possible to be liked by almost everyone

Being assertive about my own needs and wants is harmful to others or "selfish"

Sex is a big deal

I should be rewarded for being a nice person

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How to score your results:

At the end, add up you scores for each question:

- Each time you chose the first answer, you get 0 points.
- Each time you choose the second answer, you get 1 point.
- And each time you choose the 3rd answer, you get 2 points.
- Then, for the final question, you get an additional point for each of the beliefs you identified with.

0-5 Points: You're not a Nice Guy, in that you don't have Nice Guy Syndrome or People Pleasing Syndrome (do the test again if your answers weren't honest)

6-11 Points: Moderate people-pleasing and Nice Guy tendencies/beliefs detected. You probably are compartmentalised - you only behave like this in certain situations or with certain people or in certain moods.

12-25 Points: You definitely have Nice Guy Syndrome and it quite seriously impacts your life in a negative way. It probably shows up in most situations unless you feel completely safe, reducing the quality of your relationships, stealing away great opportunities, and causing ongoing damage to your self esteem.

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