Has your partner ever confided that they used to set fires or harm animals as a kid?
*Does this person dominate the conversation, making it difficult for you to get a word in edgewise?
Does your partner show emotional pain or regret when there’s no psychological advantage, like trying to gain your sympathy or to avoid a consequence?
*Does your partner often display rapid mood shifts that appear childish or immature?
Does your partner use retaliation to punish you?
Does your partner crave and seek public attention?
*Has your partner ever hit you or threatened to hurt you?
*Does your partner make self-initiated efforts to repair damaged relationships, not just with you but also with co-workers, children, friends, and other family members?
*Does this individual have a history of violence?
Do you often feel like your partner’s sidekick, whereas he/she is the superhero?
*Does this person vacillate between telling you are the best to accusing you of not doing anything right?
*Does your partner display a ruthless callousness towards others?
*Does your partner hold themselves accountable without outside reminders or resentment?
*Are you keeping secrets about how bad things are from your friends or family?
Is this relationship built on neediness or insecurity? For example, do you regularly hear your partner say he/she wouldn’t know what he/she would do without you?
*Does your partner control your access to food, when you eat, your social activities and friendships, access to money, your sleep or work schedule, and the timing or frequency of sexual intimacy?
*Does this person see themselves as special and entitled to perks and favors?
*Does your partner's gift-giving feel like a grand gesture?
*Does this person panic if you mention or even threaten to break up with them?
*Does this individual treat rules as optional because they’re superior to others?
Does your partner show spontaneous and private grief or remorse over past behavior?
*Do you find yourself feeling afraid of this individual?
*When you met your partner, do you think you were tested for cooperativeness or malleableness?
*Do you worry if you were to confide in others about your partner that, you’d look crazy?
*Are you doing less with your friends and other family members?
*Do you act like this person’s biggest fan?
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