Beck Thom is the creator of Quintimacy workshops and events, and takes safety and wellbeing of participants seriously.

It is vitally important that spaces designed for people to explore their body, sex and pleasure acknowledge that things can go wrong, and that harm can occur. This can be because of a consent 'accident' where poor communication, lack of skills, a breakdown in mutual communication, or a loss of focus or presence leads to someone overstepping someone's boundaries in a non deliberate way. In some cases, participants of sexuality events and spaces have felt confused, betrayed or harmed by the behaviour of people in the setting who hold more power and authority, even those who did not have any intention to cause distress or overstep (perhaps unclear) boundaries of the space.  In rarer cases, workshop or retreat participants are deliberately and systematically targeted by someone in position of authority/a leader who is meeting their own needs with no regard for the wellbeing and safety of the participant.

Whilst acknowledging the workshops create spaces for people to push their edges and take measured risks to have new experiences, this should all take place in a safe container where we create the conditions for a 'safe enough' experience. We want to know about consent related incidents, so that I can take action to prevent this in future, and to help contribute to repair and recovery if possible.

I am present at all Quintimacy workshops, along with co-facilitators who work with me, and a team of assistants I have introduced and prepared. Also present will be the participants. This form is for reporting any concerns about things that happened to you, or you witnessed at a Quintimacy event. It might be that the person doing the behaviour that concerned you is a facilitator, an assistant, a participant, or myself. You are welcome to use this form to tell me what concerned you.

If your concern is about something you witnessed but it did not happen TO you, please be careful about sharing the identity of the person it happened to without their permission.