Dating/Relating with Me
Hi. Depending on the day I'm Shay Au Lait, Switchress, Jupiter/No One or even my Muggle/Vanilla/Regular self. (Government name omitted for now.) Are you interested in intentionally dating me so as to lead to a relationship or partnership? If so, please do answer the questions below to be taken into consideration.

Please note if you're presently in a relationship or partnership with someone else, whether they be an anchor partner or primary partner or even a comet, I have no interest in dating you. I am only interested in those who are single JUST LIKE ME with absolutely no committed or lingering attachments.
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Who are you interested in dating?
If you would like to strictly "date" Shay Au Lait, please note that's a transactional entity and it cost. Booking time with me as Shay Au Lait, can be directed through my website. And if you'd like to book "The Girlfriend Experience" with me as Switchress, that's also a separate application all together and you'd have to offer tribute before I'd even considerate it.
Why are you interested in me? What type of connection are you looking to form. Though I'm not an anarchist, this smorgasbord can help you clarify and articulate what type of connection you're interested in. Download it here *
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What is your name?
What are your pronouns? *
I don't use pronouns. Please use "Shay" as my pronouns.
What is your gender? *
I'm Genderqueer, though AFAB (Assigned Female At Birth)
What is your sexual orientation? *
I'm Pansexual.
What is your race, ethnicity and nationality? *
I'm Black American with my roots going back to Cameroon and Nigerian. (Let's talk about what happened when I ran a DNA test. I've been able to trace ancestors back to the 1500s now! Well, the NonBlack ones. )
What other self identities are relevant for me to know? *
I'm introverted, an insomnia & neurodivergent (CPTSD & ADHD.) We can discuss more on that later. Oh I'm also Greysexual. (Please do explore that term if its new for you. Also, it's helpful to know, "Sexual attraction is different from sexual desire, and greysexuality is not the same as having a low libido, or sex drive. People within the asexual spectrum may feel arousal but without a desire to have a sexual relationship.")  I also have a technical "disability" in that I am diagnosed with treatment resistant depression. And lastly, my main identity, I'm a fucking GOD. The Erotic Goddess to be exact. 
What's your earth age and how old do you feel? *
My birthday is August 13, 1984.  I love my age every year. And I also feel ageless and like an ingenue. 
What city do you live in or spend predominantly most of your time in? *
I'm interested in exploring things with someone possibly from New York, Philly, DC, NJ or Baltimore. I do not want a long distance partner who isn't able to spend time with me consistently. We can discuss what the frequency of that desire is for both of us. 
Do you have children? Do you want them? Do you have grandchildren? Or bio animals that you consider your children like a cat or dog? If a cat or dog, do you let them sleep in your bed? Or lick/kiss your face? *
What's your experience level in BDSM & Kink? How do you identify within this industry? *
If you haven't already consider taking this quiz. https://sexualalpha.com/bdsm-kink-test/
Are you polyamorous? What's your love style and preference? *
I am high protocol and hierarchical in my polyamory. You should ask me what I mean by that if we ever have the opportunity to talk. I have a distinct thing that I mean by hierarchy. It often calms people's initial assumption, projections or triggers when they hear that word. 
Are you presently involved with anyone? *
While I have no interest in dating or partnering with someone who already has a life partner, anchor/primary partner, nesting partner or etc, there still may be other styles of relating that are not a hard limit for me. Which of the following are a part of your life?
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Sex Workers - What's your experience and understanding of them? *
In case this is an absolutely new concept for you, Wikipedia does a halfway decent, starter job. Please do check it out. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_worker
What's your relationship to plant medicine? *
Do you engage with it recreationally? Ceremonially? Other? 
How do you spend your time? What takes the most priority in your life right now? *
Most of my time is spent producing, performing or teaching as it relates to erotic wellness and personal liberation. Please check out https://shayaulait.com or https://speakeasynoir.com or https://sirenpack.com
What's your highest life value? *
Mine are FREEDOM, EXPRESSION & CREATIVITY just to name a few.
What three emotions do you feel on the day to day? (Your emotional baseline, so to say.) *
We are capable of feeling ALL the emotions but what's 3 daily emotions that you feel pretty consistently? Please google the "Wheel of Emotions" and find any that speaks to you. There are many. And use that to pick your three emotions. Also be sure to check out https://theemotionalinstitute.com
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What forms of affection do you enjoy the most and/or are you obsessed with?  *
I am touchy feely, very affectionate and even into PDA. Granted I'm a voyeur and exhibitionist so that might have something to do with it. Don't assume that means I want you to touch me upon meeting me, if it comes to that. Consent is required, plus negotiations on both our part. But I am curious about your relationship to affection and PDA. Please share.
What kinds of dates do you like to experience or plan? *
I love all types of dates. I love full sensorial experiences. Whether its renting a bookstore for a private date or going on a long hike, traveling, date nights at home and more. I like to create immersive and erotic date nights. I did a whole interactive podcast about it on SpeakEasy Noir.
What's your relationship with TIME? What does "LATE" mean to you? When is someone "LATE"? At what point in time do you notify someone that you're running late? How much leeway time happens before you realize you're going to be late? *
Me personally, I'm fascinated by time travel but haven't mastered it yet so since its not a renewable resource, I value my precious time. I usually know about two hours beforehand if I'm tracking to be late for an agreed upon meeting time. Also, its a rare day in hell when I'm late. I'm usually early to a fault that when I show up "on time" people think something is wrong...because I'm always early.
What are your passions, hobbies, curiosities and interest?
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One of my passions is literature. I love reading and own over 600 books. One of my hobbies is pole dancing. One of my curiosities is well pretty much everything from glitter to clouds to planning truly for a zombie apocalypse. One of my interest is human behavior, psychology and rhetoric.

Apology Language? Attachment Style?

Love Language? Enneagram Type?

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Prior to our first date, if you haven't done so already are you willing to take a few quizzes and assessments such as those mentioned above. If you already know some of these answers please do share. https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language and https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/ <-- this full test which I highly recommend costs $12. The apology language is free.

VETTING MATTERS

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I don't date or relate in isolation or secrecy. Who are some character references I can reach out to? Please share their name, relationship to you and email address. Since this form is public, I won't provide mine at the moment but am willing to share, if you'd like. Your responses however are private and only viewable to me.

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