Desistance & Detransition Survey

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This survey is for people who formerly self-identified as transgender (queer, non-binary, etc.) but have since desisted or detransitioned (accepted their birth sex), or for parents or primary caregivers of desisted/detransitioned people.

Throughout this survey the word "child" is used to refer to the desisted/detransitioned person (even if the person was or is an adult); the word "parent" is used to refer to the parent or primary caregiver of the desisted/detransitioned person. The word "transgender" refers to any self-identification that is an alternative to living and presenting as one's birth sex.

Information and data gathered in this survey will be used to investigate what factors may have helped or hindered a transgender-identified person with respect to desisting/detransitioning. Information and data may be used in aggregate (to describe trends and/or tendencies across all respondents) or individually with respect to comments provided. By completing this survey respondents give Partners for Ethical Care permission to reprint and/or share with other parties any non-identifiable information, comments, or data.

Respondents may take this survey anonymously, but Partners for Ethical Care would be grateful to have a contact email for each respondent, in case we have follow-up questions. Providing a contact email is not required, however.

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I am *

a child who desisted/detransitioned.

a parent or primary caregiver of a desister/detransitioner.

What was the child's sex at birth?

Male

Female

Prefer not to say

Clear selection

At what age did the child announce a transgender identity? *

Before the age of 10

10 - 12 years of age

13 - 15 years of age

16 - 18 years of age

19 - 21 years of age

22 - 25 years of age

After the age of 25

In which of the following types of transition did the child participate? (Check all that apply.) The child *

changed hairstyle.

changed hair color.

changed clothing style.

requested that a different name be used.

requested that different pronouns be used.

made use of a binder, packer, or other paraphernalia to help him/her "pass" as the other sex.

took puberty blockers (like Lupron).

took cross-sex hormones (e.g., testosterone for females; estrogen for males).

sought some kind of sex-characteristic surgical alteration but was unable to obtain it.

sought some kind of sex-characteristic surgical alteration, but desisted or detransitioned before obtaining it.

underwent some kind of sex-characteristic surgical alteration.

Other:

Required

If the child used puberty blockers, for how long were the puberty blockers taken?

3 months or less

3 - 6 months

6 - 12 months

12 months - 1 year

1 - 2 years

longer than 2 years

Clear selection

If the child used wrong-sex hormones, for how long were the hormones taken?

3 months or less

3 - 6 months

6 - 12 months

12 months - 1 year

1 - 2 years

longer than 2 years

Clear selection

If the child was unable to obtain a desired surgery, what was the reason? (Please skip to the next question if this question does not apply.)

could not finance the operation

was prevented by a health professional

was prevented by a parent or caregiver

had health complications that prevented the surgery

Other

Clear selection

Please add any information or comments about the child's surgery or desire for surgery.

For approximately how long was the child transitioned (presenting with an alternate sex identity) in any way (socially or medically)? *

less than 6 months

6 months - 1 year

1 - 2 years

3 - 5 years

6 - 8 years

more than 9 years

Where was the child FIRST introduced to gender ideology (the concept that gender is on a continuum between maleness and femaleness, and/or that people can have the mind/brain/soul of one sex and the body of another)? *

elementary school (or earlier)

middle school

high school

college (or post-high school education)

social media

friends

a health care professional

I don't know.

Other:

In which communities was the child actively encouraged and affirmed in a transgender identity? (Check all that apply.) *

school

social media groups

friend groups

nuclear family (parents, siblings)

extended family (grandparents, aunts/uncles, cousins)

community groups (sports teams, faith communities, etc.)

job/work

I don't know.

Other:

Required

Did the parent affirm the child in a transgender identity? *

No, the parent did not affirm in any way that the child was transgender.

The parent did not completely affirm, but did use the child's preferred name and/or pronouns.

Yes; the parent acquiesced to most or all of the child's wishes.

Did the other parent affirm the child in a transgender identity? *

No, the other parent did not affirm in any way that the child was transgender.

The other parent did not completely affirm, but did use the child's preferred name and/or pronouns.

Yes; the other parent acquiesced to most or all of the child's wishes.

The child does not have a relationship with another parent or caregiver.

Which of the following did the parent do after the child announced a transgender identity? (Check all that apply.) The parent *

moved the child to a different school (public, private, or other).

pulled the child from school and started homeschool.

took away social media and/or the internet from the child.

arranged for out-patient therapy or counseling for the child.

arranged for in-patient (residential) therapy or counseling for the child.

sent the child to live with a relative or close friend for some period of time.

did nothing different.

Other:

Required

Did the parent do anything else that was not listed above? Please give a short answer if applicable.

If the child saw a counselor or therapist, did the counselor or therapist affirm the transgender identity?

Yes

Other:

Clear selection

Was the child comfortable with the counselor or therapist?

Yes

Somewhat

Clear selection

Was the parent comfortable with the counselor or therapist?

Yes

Somewhat

Parent was not involved.

Clear selection

Please add any information or comments you would like to include about the child's or the parent's experience with the counselor or therapist.

What were the reasons the child desisted/detransitioned, to the best of your knowledge? (Select all that apply.) The child *

was convinced by the parent's (or someone else's) arguments against transgender ideology.

found that transitioning did not help his/her gender dysphoria/discomfort.

had friends who desisted/detransitioned.

found that being transgender negatively impacted some aspect of life.

became bored with transgender ideology.

was convinced at school that gender ideology was illogical, or that the child was not in fact transgender.

was convinced via social media that gender ideology was illogical, or that the child was not in fact transgender.

was convinced by a faith leader that gender ideology was illogical, or that the child was not in fact transgender.

Other:

Required

Please add an information or comments about why the child desisted/detransitioned.

After the child desisted/detransitioned, did s/he immediately revert to presenting (clothing choices, hairstyle, etc.) the way s/he did prior to announcing a transgender identity? *

Yes, the child immediately (or very soon after) presented physically as s/he previously did.

No, the child continued to present physically in the same way as s/he had since announcing a transgender identity.

The child changed his/her physical presentation immediately (or very soon after), but did not revert to his/her same prior style.

How was the child's relationship with his/her parent(s) prior to being introduced to gender ideology? *

Very Good: Very Close

Good: Somewhat Close

Fair: Neither Close Nor Strained

Poor: Somewhat Strained

Very Poor: Extremely Strained or Estranged

How was the child's relationship with his/her parent(s) during the period that the child was transgender-identified? *

Very Good: Very Close

Good: Somewhat Close

Fair: Neither Close Nor Strained

Poor: Somewhat Strained

Very Poor: Extremely Strained or Estranged

How has the child's relationship with his/her parent(s) been since desisting/detransitioning? *

Very Good: Very Close

Good: Somewhat Close

Fair: Neither Close Nor Strained

Poor: Somewhat Strained

Very Poor: Extremely Strained or Estranged

Does the child have any diagnosed or suspected health, psychological, or neurological issues? (Check all that apply.)

Autism Spectrum Disorder

Trauma

Depression

Physical Disability

Emotional Disability

Mental Disability

Suicidal Ideation(s)

Suicide Attempt(s)

I don't know.

Other:

Please describe any other health or psychological issues the child may have (had).

To what degree does the child regret having attempted to transition sexes (to the best of your knowledge)? The child

does not regret having attempted to transition sexes.

slightly regrets having attempted to transition sexes.

significantly regrets having attempted to transition sexes.

has extreme regret about having attempted to transition sexes.

Clear selection

What do you consider the most important thing a parent must do after a child self-identifies as transgender, if the parent wishes to help the child to eventually desist/detransition?

Is there anything you would discourage a parent of a transgender-identified child from doing?

Please use this space for any other information or comments you would like to submit about the child's experience with gender ideology and/or desistance/detransition.

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Email Address (optional, but appreciated for follow-up questions)

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